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Let’s Chat About the Real Deal: 10 Answers About Female Pleasure

April 19th, 2016

Gabi Unleashed

Let’s face it, the female orgasm is still a huge mystery for many people. That’s why I've decided to answer a few questions that you've probably already asked about female pleasure. Here's a great conversation-starter you can use with your girlfriends at your next girls' night! ;) 

1- The G spot: is it for real?

Let's start with a little history about the famous G spot, that teeny ball of less than half an inch but OHHH so important! The G spot made its first appearance in the 70s and was "discovered" by the German gynecologist Gräfenberg. When stimulated, this ultra-specific spot in the vag will lead to the most amazing orgasm you could ever imagine! Not bad, huh? Anyway, the existence of this area has never been scientifically proven. The most realistic hypothesis concerning the vag's Bermuda Triangle would be that a woman's most erogenous zone is in fact "the upper part of the vagina attached internally to the clitoris." It's new name, you ask? The *ahem cough cough* clitourethrovaginal (or CUV) complex (not exactly the catchiest thing you’ve ever heard of!).

2- Is the female orgasm really more powerful than the male orgasm?

As you may have guessed, it’s pretty tough to measure levels of pleasure. HOWEVER, the clitoris contains 8,000 nerve endings, compared to 6,000 for the guy’s best friend, the penis! Let’s hear it for the girl! ;)

3- Is an orgasm only achieved through clitoral stimulation? 

Most women (70%) have an orgasm when the clitoris is stimulated. However, 20% of women have said they’ve achieved an orgasm through kissing or performing oral sex on someone else. And get this: 10% of people have experienced orgasm while doing exercise. Specifically, for 51% of those women, it happened when they were working their abs. Funny, I have this sudden urge to drop to the floor and do some sit-ups! :P And 94% of women who’ve received anal sex achieved an orgasm! Even more surprising, 0.3% of women have had an orgasm while giving birth – okay, technically, the hoo-ha is “stimulated” during this process, but really! :P

4- Can women have multiple orgasms?

Yes, yes and YES! Did I make my point? However, even if women are physiologically capable of achieving several orgasms during sex, fewer than 20% really do. A sexual encounter – for both women and men – is divided into four distinct phases: arousal, plateau, orgasm and resolution. How do the two sexes differ when it comes to reaching several orgasms in little time? Only the refractory period men have to factor in. After ejaculation, the man needs rest and if he wants to have another orgasm, he has to start the cycle over again. On the other hand, a woman who just came can climax again, without having to start the cycle over again. Let me tell you, I’m very happy to be a chick!

5- Do women have less sexual desire than men?

NO. It’s simply a myth, too well rooted in society. Testosterone is the hormone responsible for sexual desire in men AND women. Though men’s testicles produce more testosterone, a woman’s body is much more sensitive to this hormone. So girls, if you have a more ravenous sexual appetite than your partner, it’s totally normal!

6- Do all women reach orgasm?

Unfortunately no. About 10% of women are incapable of reaching an orgasm. This inability has a name: anorgasmia. There are two degrees of anorgasmia: primary (a woman has never reached orgasm in her life) and secondary (a woman has already reached orgasm in the past but no longer does). There can be an overall inability (no way of achieving orgasm) or circumstantial inability (orgasm is reached in particular situations).

7- Can orgasm be painful?

Unfortunately, yes! Even if tolerance to pain increases by 107% during an orgasm, some women actually experience pain BECAUSE OF it. Several types of pain have been described: a cramp in the abdomen, pain in the clitoris or even severe headaches. Even though there’s very little info on this topic, some researchers tend to associate pain in the abdomen during orgasm with the approach of menopause. Other gynecological problems like endometriosis, fibroids or uterine cysts could also be a cause. If you are having this kind of experience, you should really consult with a health professional!

8- Do only men ejaculate?

This is where I’d like to teach you about – or maybe you’re already well aware of – the existence of female ejaculation. Almost all women – 75% to be exact – produce a fluid during orgasm, but no one even notices it because the quantity is so small. This liquid is colourless and odourless and looks a lot like water. For some women, the liquid jets from the urethra in an uneven, jerky stream, hence the kinky word “squirters”. This female ejaculation is ALWAYS (not just sometimes) accompanied by very intense pleasure: a type of "super orgasm." So there you have it, there’s nothing shameful about female ejaculation! ;)

9- What is the difference between a clitoral orgasm and a vaginal orgasm?

Whether it’s clitoral or vaginal, did you know that the female orgasm is in fact contractions of the vag produced every 0.8 seconds? Also, the heart speeds up between 110 and 180 beats per minute: that’s huge! Another difference between these two types of big "O": a clitoral one lasts only 14 seconds while one that is vaginal could give pleasure lasting up to (brace yourselves girls!) 30… MINUTES! Oh boy! Let’s just say you don’t exactly want one just before heading off to work! :P That being said, scientists have yet to prove that vaginal orgasms exist! Some theories suggest that vaginal orgasms are the result of continuation of the clitoris that gives you the impression that it’s vaginal (as I was saying earlier).

10- Do men reach orgasm more easily?

Yes. Here it is: On average, men reach orgasm in 2 minutes while for women (patience ladies!), it takes an average of 20 minutes… Hence the importance of foreplay and the mental side of things! ;)

In summary, remember that:

- every woman is unique;

- reaching orgasm sometimes requires a little experimenting (our hand is always a good friend);

- telling our partner what we like is very important;

- what works for you may not work for someone else (I, for one, have very sensitive ear lobes! :P)

Clitoris aside, what is YOUR kind of bizarre erogenous zone?


Sources consulted to write this article:

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